2020 is almost upon us but before the year is out, I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas. It can be a hard time for those who have experienced loss of some kind, are grappling with illness or simply lonely. Not everyone is lucky enough to have established deep and intimate relationships with family and friends or have them close by. Chronic loneliness and a feeling of being alone are hard things to bear. None of us have all the answers and each of us has to choose our own path to follow in life but I did want to share some of my thoughts as we close out the year and usher in a new decade – a time for new beginnings and the chance to start again. So without any further ado – some points below to consider.
- Develop your brain as much as your body; we now live in the knowledge economy where most of us will provide services not create products as a living.
- There are no shortcuts in life – the shortcuts become the longcuts so do it once and do it properly.
- The ability to cook, clean, wash, budget and care for others are life skills not something to be split along gender lines.
- Keep working for as long as you are able; this includes paid and unpaid work for a sense of purpose, routine and structure as well as community based on shared values and connection.
- Confront your issues as self-responsibility and emotional maturity become a super power later in life. Recognise whether the people around you are also emotional grown ups or children in adult’s bodies.
- Be resilient – grit, patience and persistence are often defining contributors to success in life as much as raw talent. Nurture your confidence and ability to bounce back from setbacks.
- Give to get; giving of yourself, your time and your attention are the most generous gifts you can ever give to other people.
- Change your focus away from yourself to others. Nurture your relationships – they are the single greatest source of happiness in life.
- Who you choose to partner with is the single biggest decision you can ever make in life. Luck and timing also play a part but the stakes get higher and the ramifications (good and bad) become even greater as we get older so choose well.
- The same applies for your friendships – friends reflect who you are so do you like what you see? Spend time with people who reach out to you and lift you up. Better still, be that friend who reaches out and lifts others up.
- Never presume to know what someone else is thinking; you can only control your own thoughts and actions and actions always speak louder than words. Watch out for disconnect in your own behaviour and others.
- Take care of your health, without it there can be no wealth.
- In the words of Stephanie Dowrick whose book Forgiveness and other acts of love (and many other books of hers) forever changed me as a person at a time in my life when I needed to see the light – choose kindness and if you can’t wish someone well, then walk away.
- The ability to let go and reach a place of acceptance is perhaps the biggest lesson of all in life. Be open to joy.
As we start a new decade, I wish you luck in whatever you choose to hold on to, or say farewell to, in your life. Life is too short to be unhappy and I thought you might like this photo of me (above pictured with my colleague Amy) which made my work friends laugh out loud! I hope you make the right decisions and I hope you always choose the light.
Wishing you much love this Christmas,
Miss Rosanna x